In Revelation chapters 1and 2, Jesus has messages for seven churches, one of which was to the church at Ephesus. His message to them is found in Revelation 2:1-11. We’re going to look at it in the context of marriage, because even though it was from The Groom to The Bride (His Church), it just might apply to us in our marriages, since we represent the ultimate bride and groom. (Can you see that I want you to never forget this?)
He charges them with having left their first love. But before He does, he commends them for all they are doing, and the list is pretty long. He knows their deeds, their toil, how they persevere, that they don’t tolerate evil by testing every leader to be sure they are not false. If they are, they are labeled as such and thus discredited. In verse three Jesus notes their perseverance (again), their enduring and their not growing weary.
All this sounds like a lot of tiring work, does it not? Does this describe what your marriage may have devolved into? Doing what you aught out of duty, rather than what you desire out of first love? Are you a diligent doer, dutifully holding up your end of the bargain?