Top Billing and Cinderella Waltz

by - October 07, 2011

Today we talk about his role, and, of course, more about hers.  Leadership is the star of the show, isn’t it? There are whole sections of the bookstores devoted to it.  Have you seen the section for Submission anywhere? Even online or kindle? No, I didn’t think so.

Leadership is the glamorous A-lister, isn’t it. Submission is so Cinderella before the ball.  And Satan wreaks havoc on us American Christian women who embrace a worldly, earthly economy created by the prince of the power of the air and desire top billing to the point of being willing to sacrifice marital bliss to get it.
I know, you think I’m being melodramatic. I’m not. It’s just that Satan is being subtle. I’m trying to expose his schemes.
Girls, we are helpers. You may think this is bad news, and I don’t care about your personality, or his, or how they hinder or make easy your fulfilling the gender-specific roles God has called us to. If you are the bride you are your husband’s helper. If you are the groom, you are the leader.  Period. The end. Amen. Evermore. Get used to it, or be forever miserable.
If you don’t like it, I suggest trying to change God’s mind on the issue. Surely He won’t cave to or be threatened by your badgering. He might even be thrilled that you are finally addressing this unresolved rebellion in your life. God and I go back pretty far, and I know him well enough from a few of my own temper tantrums before Him to know He will offer you immeasurable amounts of grace and patience until He can bring you around to accepting his will for your life as a wife or a husband.
Ladies, do not lead just because your husband doesn’t. Submit, encourage, pray for, and help him.  Following is not leading and leading is not following. He leads, she follows, and the dance will be beautiful and perfect. If there's no leader and no follower, there's no dance, no beauty. If only it came this easy to us all.
But there's a reason it so often doesn't come easy. It’s no accident that we want to assume each other’s roles. We’re going to look into that tomorrow, so just hold that thought.
Take Home:  Do you agree that our distaste for submission (suspiciously only in the context of marriage) and the glamour factor of leadership are a crafty scheme of the devil?  
What can we do to change our “but-I-don’t-want-to!”?
How do you think God can win this struggle we have with submitting to our husbands?
(I can’t resist giving you a hint on this one.  The answer will lie in submission to God. You gotta love His sense of humor and oxymoron here.)

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  1. "I know, you think I’m being melodramatic. I’m not. It’s just that Satan is being subtle."


  2. Sometimes I say to my husband, "Look! I'm being submissive." He just looks at me and laughs. It's a bit of an inside joke. But the truth is, it's just not my nature. Sometimes I actually pull it off, and when I do it's worth noting. And honestly, I can't do it no matter how hard I try. But when I don't try so hard? When I just relax and let God mess around in my marriage? That's when it works. :)


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